The Most Vital Lesson I Hope Individuals Have Realized From Me After 17 Years Of Running a blog About DIY & Adorning

I’ve been running a blog now for 17 years. That’s superb to me. On the similar time, these 17 years appear to have flown by, but additionally, our time in our little condominium looks like a lifetime in the past. However regardless of the place we’ve lived, or what tasks I used to be engaged on and running a blog about, I’ve all the time had two fundamental targets with my weblog — two main classes I hoped to drill into individuals’s heads. The primary is that I need to encourage individuals (however my coronary heart has primarily been for ladies) to reallize that they’re succesful. You can use instruments. You can construct issues. You can do it your self. You don’t should depend on others to construct or restore that factor for you. You might be succesful and robust, and you’ll discover ways to do laborious issues. My fundamental purpose has been to reveal a lifetime of studying, trial and error, rising by failures, and getting issues completed on my own.

Did I like the after? I assumed it was very good. It went from generic and builder-grade to wanting extra like one thing a designer had envisioned. It undoubtedly appeared like extra thought and care and a focus had gone into the “new” rest room than had gone into the somewhat plain and easy “earlier than” rest room. However no, I didn’t like it. It simply wasn’t my fashion, which is completely fantastic as a result of it’s not my rest room and it wasn’t embellished for me. She, the proprietor, loves her “new” rest room, and that’s the one factor that issues.

However, y’all. The feedback. THE COMMENTS have been brutal. Some have been scathing, and this quantity of vitriol was being expressed over a rest room in a stranger’s residence that these commenters won’t ever see in particular person and that has no impression on their lives in any respect. I might have been in tears, fairly truthfully. Over 17 years of running a blog, I’ve developed fairly a thick pores and skin (undoubtedly a lot thicker than after I started), however I can solely cope with a lot negativity earlier than it actually impacts my temper and mindset. (Which is why I don’t let individuals run roughshod over me on my weblog or my social media. You come at me with rudeness and snark, you’ll both get a heaping dose proper again, or your remark will probably be deleted. Individuals will deal with you the way you enable them to deal with you.)

However the imply and impolite feedback to her about her rest room gave the impression to be innumerable. I learn lots of them, and I discovered myself getting upset on her behalf. I used to be reminded of that Mike Tyson quote (I don’t know if it’s actual or not as a result of I haven’t cared sufficient to truth examine it, however I see the meme usually and it makes me snicker) that goes one thing like this: “Social media made y’all method too comfy with disrespecting individuals and never getting punched within the face for it.” 😀 That cracks me up each time I see it, and I additionally agree 100%. It’s really easy to deal with individuals horribly on-line, and say issues that the majority of us would by no means have the heart to say to a flesh-and-blood particular person standing proper in entrance of us. That’s actually a complete totally different matter, although.

However the feedback that drove me the craziest have been those about how she had “devalued” her residence due to how she embellished her rest room. To me, that’s simply such madness. Making a room she cherished had clearly elevated its worth in her thoughts. She would now get a lot extra enjoyment out of it. She would love displaying it off to associates. She would really feel a way of pleasure every time she walked by it and noticed what she had completed along with her personal arms There’s large worth in that!

The remark that drove me the craziest was the one the place the particular person mentioned, “Whoever will get the home after you goes to be cursing you to no finish.” What? The proprietor had already mentioned in that remark thread that she wasn’t planning on promoting, however all this commenter might take into consideration was what the subsequent proprietor would give it some thought. Why? WHY? WHY??? Why are some individuals so unbelievably obsessive about what some potential unknown future proprietor might take into consideration the home?

Once more, I’ve mentioned this a thousand occasions, however clearly in the event you’ve purchased a home figuring out that your keep in that home is short-term (perhaps you could have a short-term contract job and you then’re on to the subsequent one in one other metropolis or state), then sure, you need to be aware of the modifications you make since you’re going to need to promote the home quickly and also you need it to enchantment to the overall market.

However for these of us who’ve completely no intention of promoting, it doesn’t make any sense to have to bear in mind some potential future purchaser. I’ll all the time, all the time, ALWAYS embellish my home for me. (And just for me, as a result of Matt typically doesn’t care, which makes my life simpler. 😀 ) Matt and I are those who paid for this home. We’re those who personal the home. We’re those who stay in the home. I’m the one who has poured my blood, sweat, and tears into the work to make this home our residence.

Anybody who thinks I’m going to offer a care on the earth what some potential, unknown, future proprietor thinks about any of my choices is delusional. And I believe that’s how each long-term residence proprietor ought to really feel. When that unknown future proprietor will get their arms on this home and pays the mortgage for it, they will do what they need with it, however not a second earlier than. Till that point, that is my home, my residence, my refuge from a harsh and chaotic world, my playground, my canvas. I don’t ever anticipate or require weblog readers or actual life guests to my residence to like my residence like I do, however I do hope that individuals respect the truth that I like what I’m doing and what I’ve completed, and to grasp that it completely fits me and my persona. I additionally hope that individuals can at the least be inspired by my processes and tasks, and to see my dedication and be motivated to make their residence precisely what they need it to be for them, and never for strangers.